While those of us on the West Coast are starting to see the warmth of Spring creeping in, plenty are still trapped indoors under sub-freezing temperatures, icy winds, and snowstorms. While we probably shouldn’t go out for the evening in our mini-skirt and frilly top combo, and some of us *may* struggle to cross icy terrains when in our stilettos, I don’t want any femmes or sissies to think they are missing out on some of my *favorite*  ways to embrace my femininity in the cold. You may have to put extra layers on over your frills and bows (sorry to all those Frilly Sissies out there, but I promise I have tips for you too!), but trust me, it’s worth it. 😉

Layers, Layers, LAYERS! There’s a few reasons a sissy can benefit from wearing lots of layers. One of them is that it is easier to stealth (How To) Be Secretly Feminine) when you are bundled up. You can wear a FULL getup, including Lingerie for Crossdressers, and as long as you keep your coats and whatnot on- no one will be any wiser (unless you decide to tell them (; ). If anyone asks you “Oh, hey, Why do you have tinted chapstick?”, you can easily respond with “Oh, well it’s FUCKING winter, Dan, so WHY DON’T YOU?” You can wear cute stockings under your winter shoes, and hell, depending on if you wear gloves – you might even be able to swing some fun accessories.

Further, if you DON’T want to stealth, it’s a lot of fun to use your layers to build a flattering figure! I highly recommend having a cinched waist or maybe even a corset with your lingerie for maximum impact. If the weather is really cold, layers are going to be your best friend – bonus points if each layer you take off, there’s something even cuter underneath. This is where the 7 Types of Sissy can really shine! Maybe over your lingerie, you have a cute white cable-knit sweater with a turtle neck, a vampy velvet long sleeve bodysuit, or even a utilitarian and soft flannel button-up. Over your sweater, you might go straight to a nice jacket – I am a sucker for a calf length wool jacket, especially when it has a well contoured waist. If it’s colder, you might even throw a matching thin jacket or vest, color coordinated with your tights or pants. The key for me her that REALLY makes me happy is focusing on the sensations as well as the appearance. Let me tell you – the first time I got a pair of NICE fleece lined tights and put them on under a cute dress, it was like being embraced in the softest, warmest hug. They are *WELL* worth it, especially over cleanly shaved/epilated/waxed legs. On top of that, you can color coordinate and accessorize in so many ways – there are lots of cute winter boots, scarves, hats, shawls, and similar ways to add style, color, and warmth to your look!

Part of embracing my femininity, like I said, lies in appreciating and embracing that which I find to be feminine. We have talked about  “What is Sissification” in the past, and have described sissies as people who find joy in embracing feminization. So here is a feminization fantasy I recommend for my sissies out there wanting to bundle up indoors and escape the freezing weather outside:

After the day is done, and we have no where else we need to be, we start by getting everything ready. Get your fluffiest robe in your favorite color, a matching hair towel, and make sure your slippers are clean and fluffy as well – we are going to get ourselves warmed up with a nice soak in a warm bath. When running the bath, make sure you have the water hotter than you normally would – you want to be able to soak and REALLY feel the heat – and load the tub up with lotions and oils, smells and colors that make you happy. Now’s the time to break out that bath bomb and body oil, because we want to seek joy in every sensation we can. Pour yourself a drink (alcoholic or not, I’m not judging!) and maybe even grab an easy to eat snack (such as grapes, berries, etc.). Light candles, dim the lights, turn on music, and lower yourself into the water slowly – letting your skin prickle and react to the drastic change in temperature.

Once you’re in the tub, pause and take a few deep breaths. Smell the products you have in the air, the candles – do you lean more floral and feminine? Sweet and sensual? Musky and dramatic? Feel not just the warmth that envelopes you, but the heat and steam that radiates off the water and into your nose. Feel the refreshingly, almost shockingly cool air that dances on any exposed bits of skin. Take a sip of your drink and allow it to sluice up the sides of your mouth, exploring the notes of each flavor and how it compares or contrasts to the scents in the air. Run your hands along your legs, body – have the oils started to soak in? Is your skin smooth? If you haven’t shaved yet, take the time to do so. You will *really* appreciate the final result! After you have warmed yourself to the core in the tub, go ahead and pat yourself dry, put your hair up in your towel, and grab your body oil. Again, scent and texture are vital here – what is a smell that works well on your skin? What’s something that you want to continue to get whiffs of as you move throughout the evening? What’s something you want others to associate with you? I have been partial to a salted vanilla body oil, but you might find that other scents are more your scene. Either way, moisturize your entire body – and take the time when you are doing this to massage out any sore spots and tension you may have built up. I also like to play with my legs a bit when I do this – I *intentionally* pose like a model when putting on lotion, and this bit of glamour helps me feel even more divinely feminine.

After you have oiled yourself up into a moisturized, shining sissy, bundle up in that big fluffy robe. Did you chose a girly pink? Sultry burgundy? Royal purple? When you picture yourself in this self care fantasy, what colors are you imagining for the bathroom, the towels? Feel the way the robe simultaneously keeps you warm, while also snuggling you with the soft fibers nestled against your skin. Slip your soft, clean feet into your fuzzy slippers, and take a moment to hug yourself – snug as a sissy in her perfect robe after the perfect bath. Make sure you do your evening skincare routine for your face (if you have one) and finish up any hair care steps you take (depending on how long your hair is, you may need leave in conditioner, oil the ends, blow dry, etc). After you’re bundled up, make your way to your bedroom and open up your drawers – turns out, you have SO MANY different sets of pajamas. Do you grab the timeless satin tank top and shorts combo? The lacy teddy with matching panties? Maybe the super soft pants and button up shirt in a matching pale pink? Find your *perfect* pair of pajamas, and then make sure you find the panties to match them. You *do* have plenty of different types of panties, right? Once your outfit is picked out, make sure you take the time to notice the way the fabric feels as you pull it over your body. When you’re dressed, does the clothing hug you tight, or dance delicately along your features? Do you feel the contact from the soft fabric, or a gentle tickle of lace as your pajamas move with you?

Now that you went through all that effort to get naked, get wet, get oiled, get dressed… now’s your chance to take this fantasy over. Sometimes, from here I just continue to seek joy and comfort in what I do. Maybe I make myself a cup of hot tea, grab my favorite blanket, and cuddle up somewhere soft and comfy, listening to music and basking in the warmth I have surrounded myself with. Maybe I crawl into bed with a few toys and start orgasm edging for however long I can take, trying different toys, positions, and rhythms. After all, spending all that time focusing so much on my physical sensations and self care is a form of foreplay in it’s own… It’s only natural for one thing to lead to another ;). I want you to tell me where you would go from here in this fantasy – what would you sissies want to do next? Give me a call and let me know.